How To Talk TO Anyone

Author, Leil Lowndes gives 92 tricks for becoming a better conversationalist and improving your relationships

Introduction: How to Get Anything You Want
from Anybody (Well, at Least Have
the Best Crack at It!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xi
Part One: How to Intrigue Everyone Without
Saying a Word: You Only Have Ten
Seconds to Show You’re a Somebody . . . . . 1
1 How to Make Your Smile Magically Different. . . . . . . . . 5
2 How to Strike Everyone as Intelligent and
Insightful by Using Your Eyes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
3 How to Use Your Eyes to Make Someone Fall in
Love with You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14
4 How to Look Like a Big Winner Wherever You Go. . . . 17
5 How to Win Their Heart by Responding to Their
“Inner Infant” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
6 How to Make Someone Feel Like an Old Friend
at Once . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
7 How to Come Across as 100 Percent Credible
to Everyone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
8 How to Read People Like You Have ESP . . . . . . . . . . . 35
9 How to Make Sure You Don’t Miss a Single Beat . . . . . 39
Part Two: How to Know What to Say After
You Say “Hi” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43
10 How to Start Great Small Talk. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
11 How to Sound Like You’ve Got a Super
Personality (No Matter What You’re Saying!) . . . . . . 51
12 How to Make People Want to Start a
Conversation with You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56
13 How to Meet the People You Want to Meet . . . . . . . . . 59
14 How to Break into a Tight Crowd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
15 How to Make “Where Are You From?”
Sound Exciting. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63
16 How to Come Out a Winner Every Time
They Ask, “And What Do You Do?” . . . . . . . . . . . . 68
17 How to Introduce People Like the Host(ess)
with the Most(est) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71
18 How to Resuscitate a Dying Conversation. . . . . . . . . . 73
19 How to Enthrall ’Em with Your Choice of
Topic—Them! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 76
20 How to Never Need to Wonder, “What Do I
Say Next?” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78
21 How to Get ’Em Happily Chatting (So You Can
Slip Away if You Want To!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82
22 How to Come Across as a Positive Person. . . . . . . . . . 87
23 How to Always Have Something Interesting
to Say . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Part Three: How to Talk Like a VIP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93
24 How to Find Out What They Do (Without Even
Asking!). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95
25 How to Know What to Say When They Ask,
“What Do You Do?”. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98
26 How to Sound Even Smarter Than You Are . . . . . . . . 103
27 How to Not Sound Anxious (Let Them Discover
Your Similarity) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
28 How to Be a “You-Firstie” to Gain Their Respect
and Affection . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 110
29 How to Make Them Feel You “Don’t Smile at
Just Anybody” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115
30 How to Avoid Sounding Like a Jerk. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119
31 How to Use Motivational Speakers’ Techniques to
Enhance Your Conversation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121
32 How to Banter Like the Big Shots Do (Big
Winners Tell It Like It Is) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127
33 How to Avoid the World’s Worst Conversational
Habit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129
34 How to Give Them the Bad News (and Have
Them Like You All the More). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131
35 How to Respond When You Don’t Want to
Answer (and Wish They’d Shut the Heck Up) . . . . . 134
36 How to Talk to a Celebrity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 136
37 How to Make Them Want to Thank You . . . . . . . . . 140
Part Four: How to Be an Insider in Any Crowd:
What Are They All Talking About? . . . . 143
38 How to Be a Modern-Day Renaissance Man
or Woman . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145
39 How to Sound Like You Know All About Their
Job or Hobby . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150
40 How to Bare Their Hot Button (Elementary
Doc-Talk) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 154
41 How to Secretly Learn About Their Lives . . . . . . . . . 157
42 How to Talk When You’re in Other Countries . . . . . . 161
43 How to Talk Them into Getting the “Insider’s
Price” (on Practically Anything You Buy) . . . . . . . . 165
Part Five: How to Sound Like You’re Peas in
a Pod: “Why, We’re Just Alike!”. . . . . . . . 171
44 How to Make Them Feel You’re of the Same “Class” . 173
45 How to Make Them Feel That You’re Like “Family”. . 176
46 How to Really Make It Clear to Them . . . . . . . . . . . 182
47 How to Make Them Feel You Empathize (Without
Just Saying “Yep, Uh Huh, Yeah”) . . . . . . . . . . . . . 186
48 How to Make Them Think You See/Hear/Feel It
Just the Way They Do . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 188
49 How to Make ’Em Think We (Instead of You
vs. Me) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 192
50 How to Create a Friendly “Private Joke” with Them . . 195
Part Six: How to Differentiate the Power of
Praise from the Folly of Flattery . . . . . . 199
51 How to Compliment Someone (Without Sounding
Like You’re Brownnosing) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 202
52 How to Be a “Carrier Pigeon” of Good Feelings . . . . 204
53 How to Make ’Em Feel Your Admiration “Just
Slipped Out” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 207
54 How to Win Their Hearts by Being an “Undercover
Complimenter”. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 209
55 How to Make ’Em Never Forget You with a “Killer
Compliment” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211
56 How to Make ’Em Smile with “Itty-Bitty Boosters”. . 214
57 How to Praise with Perfect Timing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 217
58 How to Make ’Em Want to Compliment You . . . . . . 220
59 How to Make a Loved One Feel You Are THE
Partner for Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 224
Part Seven: How to Direct Dial Their Hearts . . . . 229
60 How to Sound More Exciting on the Phone . . . . . . . 231
61 How to Sound Close (Even if You’re Hundreds
of Miles Away) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 234
62 How to Make ’Em Happy They Called You. . . . . . . . 236
63 How to Sneak Past the Gatekeeper . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 240
64 How to Get What You Want on the Phone from
Big Shots . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 242
65 How to Get What You Want—by Timing! . . . . . . . . 245
66 How to Impress Everyone with Your Outgoing
Voicemail Message . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 248
67 How to Get Them to Call You Back . . . . . . . . . . . . . 252
68 How to Make the Gatekeeper Think You’re
Buddy-Buddy with the VIP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 255
69 How to Make Them Say You Have Super Sensitivity . 257
70 How to “Listen Between the Lines” on the Phone . . . 259
Part Eight: How to Work a Party Like a Politician
Works a Room: The Politician’s Six-
Point Party Checklist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 265
71 How to Avoid the Most Common Party Blooper . . . . 270
72 How to Make an Unforgettable Entrance . . . . . . . . . 272
73 How to Meet the People YOU Want to Meet . . . . . . 274
74 How to Subliminally Lure People to You at
a Gathering . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 278
75 How to Make ’Em Feel Like a Movie Star . . . . . . . . . 281
76 How to Amaze Them with What You Remember
About Them. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 285
77 How to Make the Sale with Your Eyeballs . . . . . . . . . 288
Part Nine: How to Break the Most Treacherous
Glass Ceiling of All: Sometimes People
Are Tigers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 293
78 How to Win Their Affection by Overlooking
Their Bloopers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 296
79 How to Win Their Heart When Their Tongue
Is Faltering . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 300
80 How to Let ’Em Know “What’s in It” for Them . . . . 303
81 How to Make Them Want to Do Favors for You . . . . 306
82 How to Ask for Favors (and Get Them!) . . . . . . . . . . 309
83 How to Know What Not to Say at Parties . . . . . . . . . 311
84 How to Know What Not to Say at Dinner . . . . . . . . 314
85 How to Know What Not to Say in a Chance
Meeting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 317
86 How to Prepare Them to Listen to You . . . . . . . . . . . 319
87 How to Turn Their Anger Around (in Three
Sentences or Less) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 322
88 How to Make ’Em Like You (Even When
You’ve Messed Up) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 325
89 How to Trap a Rat with Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 327
90 How to Get Whatever You Want from Service
Personnel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 330
91 How to Be a Leader in a Crowd, Not a Follower . . . . 333
92 How to Make All the Right Moves . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 336
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 343

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